Professional Dater

When I was married I was in counseling and the counselor got me hooked onto journalling.  I had a lot of things to process at the time.   I remember how great it felt to focus in on one thought and get everything related to that thought out on paper.  The counselor complimented me on […]

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Need Advice?

I will have better posts soon.  Life is a little busy this week.  Life is a balancing act and I am having to lean away from things to keep all the balls in the air.  I will be working on a few posts in the coming days. I’d like to start a “Guys Perspective’ Column. […]

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Dating is Exhausting…

I was born in 1979 and grew I up in the 80s and 90s.  I remember the days before everyone had a cellphone.  To have a private conversation you needed to have a kitchen phone with a cord on it long enough to make it into the bathroom.   Even then you were hoping not […]

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Block Upon Request

I saw this meme online and I thoroughly enjoy questions like these that provoke thought.  This question speaks more to who I was and less to who I am.  Point of fact I did cut people out of my life without the request for the sake of my relationships.  I am neither proud nor have […]

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Life’s Little Balancing Act!

Life is bunch of little balancing acts.  We all wear many hats.  My closet is full of hats.  I have many hats for work, kids, home, personal projects like this blog.  All of which make my life full, fun and of course frustrating. How many times a week do we say the following… I have […]

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Interview: With A Douchbag

I have old friend that is also out on these dating apps.  She was telling me about a guy that ghosted on her before Christmas and Reappeared before New Years.  She happened to be dating someone else at the time and refused a date with him.  They had been on a few dates before the […]

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Processing Grief, The Art of Letting Go

There are many things that cause grief but they all really mean the same thing, loss.  My divorce was final August 2016, almost 6 months ago as I write this.  Some people assume that my life when I was married was in some kind of turmoil that I escaped from.  Others ask me questions like It […]

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Complex Math and Simple Relationships

How about a math problem?  or Maybe a kids playground nursery rhyme?  Kinda strange to hear on a relationship blog right? PEMDAS OR… Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally OR… Parenthesis Exponents  Multiplication Division Addition Subtraction The above is what we were all taught on how the pictured math problem is solved.  The fundamentals of solving basic math problems.  There is a very specific way […]

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Child Support: Stop Complaining

I have been on both sides of this topic.  In the early 2000s I was supposed to receive child support and I never did.  Now I happily, yes HAPPILY, pay child support.  Do you know what you never heard me do?  Complain! The following is NOT about the extreme cases the people that are truly […]

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