Confidence, The Inner Beauty

What is inner beauty?  To me inner beauty starts with love.  Not love of your family, children, or friends, but love of oneself.  Confidence that you are the best you that you can be.  I cannot give that to you.  Nobody can give this gift to you, you can only give it to yourself. When […]

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Professional Dater

When I was married I was in counseling and the counselor got me hooked onto journalling.  I had a lot of things to process at the time.   I remember how great it felt to focus in on one thought and get everything related to that thought out on paper.  The counselor complimented me on […]

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Need Advice?

I will have better posts soon.  Life is a little busy this week.  Life is a balancing act and I am having to lean away from things to keep all the balls in the air.  I will be working on a few posts in the coming days. I’d like to start a “Guys Perspective’ Column. […]

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Happy Being Alone

I am alone and for many that goes hand in hand with being lonely.  Not for me though.  Don’t get me wrong, I do eventually want a relationship.  But only when the time is right.  I will meet someone that will light that fire under me.  I could have met them already.  Who knows?  I’m […]

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Dating is Exhausting…

I was born in 1979 and grew I up in the 80s and 90s.  I remember the days before everyone had a cellphone.  To have a private conversation you needed to have a kitchen phone with a cord on it long enough to make it into the bathroom.   Even then you were hoping not […]

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Life’s Little Balancing Act!

Life is bunch of little balancing acts.  We all wear many hats.  My closet is full of hats.  I have many hats for work, kids, home, personal projects like this blog.  All of which make my life full, fun and of course frustrating. How many times a week do we say the following… I have […]

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Love: No Strings Attached

This has been one of the hardest topics I have ever had to cover.  Mostly because I am not sure I can properly define it.  I really don’t believe anyone has.  I thought I had it at one time or another but I was wrong there too.  But what are we really talking about here? […]

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Processing Grief, The Art of Letting Go

There are many things that cause grief but they all really mean the same thing, loss.  My divorce was final August 2016, almost 6 months ago as I write this.  Some people assume that my life when I was married was in some kind of turmoil that I escaped from.  Others ask me questions like It […]

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Complex Math and Simple Relationships

How about a math problem?  or Maybe a kids playground nursery rhyme?  Kinda strange to hear on a relationship blog right? PEMDAS OR… Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally OR… Parenthesis Exponents  Multiplication Division Addition Subtraction The above is what we were all taught on how the pictured math problem is solved.  The fundamentals of solving basic math problems.  There is a very specific way […]

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An Itch That Can’t Be Scratched

You know that spot in the center of your back that is just out of reach?  You know the spot.  It is the one that always itches after you are all bundled up to go out in the cold and no matter how much you rub against the corner of the wall you just can’t […]

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