Professional Dater

When I was married I was in counseling and the counselor got me hooked onto journalling.  I had a lot of things to process at the time.   I remember how great it felt to focus in on one thought and get everything related to that thought out on paper.  The counselor complimented me on […]

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Dating is Exhausting…

I was born in 1979 and grew I up in the 80s and 90s.  I remember the days before everyone had a cellphone.  To have a private conversation you needed to have a kitchen phone with a cord on it long enough to make it into the bathroom.   Even then you were hoping not […]

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Life’s Little Balancing Act!

Life is bunch of little balancing acts.  We all wear many hats.  My closet is full of hats.  I have many hats for work, kids, home, personal projects like this blog.  All of which make my life full, fun and of course frustrating. How many times a week do we say the following… I have […]

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Complex Math and Simple Relationships

How about a math problem?  or Maybe a kids playground nursery rhyme?  Kinda strange to hear on a relationship blog right? PEMDAS OR… Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally OR… Parenthesis Exponents  Multiplication Division Addition Subtraction The above is what we were all taught on how the pictured math problem is solved.  The fundamentals of solving basic math problems.  There is a very specific way […]

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An Itch That Can’t Be Scratched

You know that spot in the center of your back that is just out of reach?  You know the spot.  It is the one that always itches after you are all bundled up to go out in the cold and no matter how much you rub against the corner of the wall you just can’t […]

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Child Support: Stop Complaining

I have been on both sides of this topic.  In the early 2000s I was supposed to receive child support and I never did.  Now I happily, yes HAPPILY, pay child support.  Do you know what you never heard me do?  Complain! The following is NOT about the extreme cases the people that are truly […]

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Post-Divorce Adventures

So I made a minor site change.  I changed the tagline.  The tagline for a site should tell people what your site is all about.  When I did my research around the time I started this site I was warned by many articles that a blog or a website will evolve over time. I am […]

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Perfect Imperfections

One of the greatest insults I have ever I ever enjoyed was “People grow until they’re perfect it just took a lot longer for you.”  I’m 6’3″ so it took me a really long time.  We all have flaws and when we look at ourselves we usually see the things that we would want to […]

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Don’t Tell Me Everything

How many times have you had that deep conversation with a person until the wee hours of the morning?  It is great when that happens.  It feels good to connect with someone on a level beyond the superficial. I am not even referring to someone in a romantic sense.  Even on a strictly platonic level […]

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What are you looking for?

Oh wow.  How many times have I asked this question?  How many times have i been asked?  If I had access to every conversation I have had online or off I could categorize each answer to the level of seriousness of the relationship that one person is looking for.  But that wouldn’t be fair. It […]

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