Second Chances Rematch

Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.  John Barrymore

I normally don’t post about dates, or conversations that turn into meets but there was an important lesson I learned that I would like to share.  This happened a few months ago.

I was chatting with someone on Tinder she seemed like a nice person. I offered her my phone number and told her no hard feelings if she didn’t use it.  She never texted me then she disappeared off of my profile.  I assumed based upon our previous conversations that she got nervous and Unmatched.  She had been single a while was very uneasy about online dating.

Geographicly speaking she was 1 large city away and I knew logistically the chances of a meeting was slim to none.  Her nerves combined with geography I figured there was never going to be a chance to meet.

I couple of weeks go by and I rematched her while I was out at a local bar having a brew with some buddies after work.  I looked at the distance away and said less than a few miles.

I sent her a message asking to meet me since we were so close in proximity and she agreed.

She stopped by we had a wonderful conversation.  It was so impromptu that I’m not sure if you can call it a date.  We had a great time.  At the end of the hour.  I walked her to her car, said our goodbyes and thanked her for a unexpected adventure.

The connection didn’t continue much after that.  But that’s not the point of the story.

Not every connection is supposed to turn into a love affair.  Most connections don’t actually.  I think I have made more friends than anything on these sites.  Isn’t that where long lasting relationships start?

The person I am referring to in this article sat and spoke as if we were old friends.  That’s all the evening was.  It wasn’t a romantic connection it was a human connection.

If I could convey a message to that person or anyone else that I have had a similar evening it would be:  Thank you again for a wonderful adventure.  I learned a little bit about you and in turn I learned  Little bit about myself.

To my readers I think the lesson here is.. Don’t close doors unless they are a benefit for you to close.  Be as respectful to yourself and you are to others.  Don’t be so quick to judge others. Not all bridges are meant to be burned.

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